Tuesday, December 4, 2007

When GOD called on me......This applies to all of us..

God : Hello. Did you call me?

Me: Called you? No.. who is this?

God : This is GOD. I heard your prayers. So I thought I will chat.

Me: I do pray. makes me feel good. I am busy now.; in the midst of something.

God : What are you busy at? Ants are busy too.

Me: Don't know. But I cant find free time. Life is hectic. Rush hour all the time.

God : Sure. Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you results. Activity consumes time. Productivity frees it.

Me: I understand. But I still can't figure out. By the way, I was not expecting YOU to buzz me on instant messaging chat.

God : Well I wanted to resolve your! fight for time, by giving you some clarity. In this net era, I wanted to reach you through the medium you are comfortable with.

Me: Tell me, why has life become complicated now?

God : Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis is what makes it complicated.

Me: why are we then constantly unhappy?

God : Your today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday.You are worrying because you are analyzing. Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.

Me: But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?

God : Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.

Me: But then, there is so much pain due to uncertainty. .

God : Pain is inevitable able, but suffering is optional.

Me: If suffering is optional, why do good people always suffer?

God : Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don't suffer. With that experience their life become better not bitter.

Me: You mean to say such experience is useful?

God : Yes. In every terms, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.

Me: why do we go through such tests? Why cant we be free from problems?

God : Problems are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial Lessons (to) Enhance Mental Strength. Inner strength comes from struggle and endurance, not when you! are free from problems.

Me: Frankly in the midst of so many problems, we don't know where we are heading..

God : If you look outside you will not know where you are heading.Look inside. Looking outside, you dream. Looking inside, you awaken. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides insight.

Me: Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more than moving in the right direction. What should I do?

God : Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you. Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing you rode ahead. You work with the compass. Let others work with the clock.

Me: In tough times, how do you stay motivated?

God : Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

Me: What surprises you about people?

God : when they suffer they ask, "why me?" When they prosper, they never ask "Why me" Everyone wishes to have truth on their side, but few want to be on the side of the truth.

Me: Sometimes I ask, who am I, why am I here. I cant get the answer.

God : Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you want to be. Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here. Create it. Life is not a process of discovery but a process of creation.

Me: How can I get the best out of life?

God : Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.

Me: One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.

God : There are no unanswered prayers. At times the answer is NO, which we are not ready to accept as an answer.

Me: Thank you for this wonderful life changing chat.

God : Well. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Don't believe your doubts and doubt your beliefs. Life is a mystery to solve not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live. "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that took our breath away!

warm regards,
** This is a email forward that I received

Thursday, November 29, 2007

Discussion on the Last Scene of Laga Chunari Mein Daag

Of the recently watched movies, I had liked Laga Chunari Mein Daag the most. Speciality of the movie was the way the subject matter was handled and the way the overall relationship management was portrayed. Though it depicted the changing mindset of the Indian Society but some out there might opine that it was still by far largely unacceptable ending to the movie. People who have seen the movie have opined either ways, but the harsh opinion is that this looks good only in the movies and not in the real life.

Inn one such conversation the other day, me and another friend of mine strongly opposed the points of non-realism. We opined that the end of the movie was very much practical and very much positive. When we look at the past of the Indian society dating back to 10th Century or earlier, we find that there had been lot more such cases. The base of Indian society was OPEN CULTURE and it still is. Its only after a certain invasion and post infusion of foreign culture that the social norms changed.

Even today we find several cases in real life and not just in reel life for the pairs getting hooked on irrespective of each others background. If someone comes out and says that for a guy it is accepted, but the background of the girl ahs to be clean and that she has to be one man girl, then I strongly oppose it. Isn’t it being a hypocrite? The guy can have numerous physical relations prior to or even after the marriage but girl has to be virgin at the time of marriage. Now this is something too far and too high an expectation. Why should one expect something from others when one can’t give the same to others?

Any opinions???


Monday, November 19, 2007

Jab We Met - Technical Gliches

Just happened to watch Shahid and Kareena Kapur starer Jab We Met. A really good movie when it comes to entertainment and after the debacle of Sanwariya J. But my entire taste for the movie was spoiled because of the Pathetic technical mistakes and the way city of Ratlam has been presented. Yes the city is not as it was presented in the movie, not even 10% of it. The way it has been presented in the movie really ruins the image of Ratlam as one of the most literate city of Madhya Pradesh and as one of the Biggest Western Railway Divisions.

Let me start from the point they show the shoddy entrance with a board of Ratlam Junction put over it. Well that’s certainly not the way Ratlam’s real station, that’s just a very Pathetic imagination of some really stinking person who never did any research about the entrance to the Ratlam station or the Station itself. Then certainly one DOES NOT See those cheap sorts of prostitutes standing in front of the Railway station and certainly even at night 1 or 2 the Station area is pretty safe for any female even if she is alone. I was really shocked for the way the script represented the cheap acts for Ratlam station.

Moreover the first and foremost technical fault of the movie – A TRAIN LEAVING FROM CHATRAPATI SHIVAJI TERMINAL IN MUMBAI TO NEW DELHI DOES NOT GO THROUGH THE RATLAM AND KOTA. And as presented in the Movie, The Punjab Mail certainly DOES NOT CROSS Ratlam at all, it rather takes, Kalyan – Nashik – Khandwa – Itarsi – Bhopal – Agra route to New Delhi.

I mean the script writer hardly put any research in place on this side and well so did the lapse on the side of the Director and the rest of the technical team involved. Its really a gruesome mistake.

The movie certainly creates a maligned image of Ratlam, but Ratlam is not such a Shoddy city, it is very much a nice and developing city that has much better environment prevailing.


Tuesday, November 13, 2007

Sanwariya Reminded me of Moulin Rouge

Movie – Sanwariya

Show watched – Sunday November 11, 2007 10:45 PM

Location – IMAX Prasads, Hyderabad

Review Rating – 2 out of 5

RecommendationIn case You have nothing to do and want to kill your time and have a laugh riot on the poor script and really poor sense of direction, please go ahead and watch this movie

Well as stated above, I happened to watch the movie as there was nothing to do on my part and was scolded a lot for not arranging the tickets in past two days. (un)luckily we got the tickets when we visited that theatre and my friend accompanying was more than ecstatic to watch the movie. I had already lost the interest in the movie as the Promos of the movie had hinted towards the INSPIRATION from a la Moulin Rouge. Well Moulin Rouge is a Musical Movie with lot of backdrop and lot of immense efforts been put up on the script and the direction. But Sanwariya loses out on both the fronts.

Well as far as the Sets are concerned, well they are HIGHLY INSPIRED by Moulin Rouge and also some part of script – when it comes to the role of Gulabji played by Rani Mukharjee. But the whole story and script goes for a BIG TOSS every now and then. Though the new comers do show a bit of their talent and Rani Mukharjee is as usually awesome in the entire movie, but there are far too many loose points in the movie.

Yeah one thing that is typical characteristic or trade mark of a Sanjay Leela Bhansali movie does shine in the entire movie, and that is the Glamour that is poured into the sets and the dresses of the characters. The another interesting part of the movie is the usage of RK logo and that way this movie can be called as a RE-launch pad of the famous RK Banner.

But overall if you are looking for a typical Hindi Formula movie, well there is nothing except melodrama in it. If you are going with a mindset to watch a movie that is for the love of two youngsters, there is nothing. And if you are going in to see Love triangle/quadrangle and family melodrama well that also is not there. Hence it is not for those regular movie goers.

Well yes in case you if you would have seen Moulin Rouge and you liked it, then well go ahead and watch it (still you wouldn’t like this movie).

My Recommendation does stay at the end that go out to watch this movie ONLY IF YOU HAVE NOTHING BETTER TO DO orelse if you like to see OFFBEAT movies.


Friday, November 9, 2007

Deepavali or Diwali, The Festival of Lights

Deepavali or the modernized name Diwali, is the festival celebrated as homecoming of Lord Ram from his 14 yrs of exile following hid step mother Kekeyi’s wish. The Festival is marked as a grand festival and is celebrated for 5 days in a row. Houses are decorated and Diyas, Candles and other sources of lights are used to decorate the exteriors of the house (interiors as well).

For the five days, one can hear the sounds of crackers and it would not be exaggerating statement to make that in these five days, the amount of crackers that are burst may be atleast double than the amount of crackers that people burst year round. I guess I can compare the amount of crackers burst in India in just these 5 days to the amount of crackers that would be burst over the world in the year round.

But am I trying to boast about the scenario, NO, NOT AT ALL. Though I used to love to burst crackers a lot and being a little dare devil, used to try various stunts and used to burst quite a good amount of crackers in most dangerous ways. But then with time, I don’t know why my enthusiasm just faded out. I stopped enjoying bursting of crackers and the sound. NO, NOT because of the reasons like Noise or Sound Pollutions (though I am an environmentalist) as there are other bigger factors chipping in to the noise and sound pollution. Moreover one can do better than harming the religious feelings and the fun associated, as during Diwali, people from all the sects join in mind even barrier of religion also diminishes.

So, one must be thinking what is it that I happened to move away from a festival and the act of bursting crackers. It is one of the things that I have tried to establish over years and have not been able to ascertain why?

I guess one of the reasons had been the incidents during the college days where we all hostellers used to chip in and buy crackers and burst them in the Hostel compound. There we never used to think of the amount of damage that we used to cause to the Hostel property, but guess when started recounting those days, started feeling guilty for the financial loss college used to suffer each year due to us.

Another reason, and the more appropriate reason one I would say could be the reason of seeing dark houses of the poor and roadside dwellers. I have seen their kids searching the pile of burnt cracker to find any live cracker that they can burn and enjoy. Have witnessed them standing at a distance and clapping when the cracker burst. I have seen them getting happy when others enjoy, but at the same time have seen the smile to be SAD and Hurting as they themselves can not afford to do it. They have to rely on others, and these others just shun them away.

I too often feel that the second reason had been more of the reason that impacted me and I turned out to be a silent person from the Diwali devil (Yeah the Dare Devil) I was J.

From the time I turned from dare devil to silent guy, I love to do another silent act and that is select a house of those poor once and just go in the night to put Diyas / Candles outside the door, light them and vanish so that they can’t notice who did it. I prefer to light their doorway as for the reason of may be believing in the myth that Goddess Laxmi might see that light and enter their house for fortunes J…Ha ha yeah silly me, but then it puts up that brightness on their face when I happen to see them the next morning J. Yeah one more thing that I don’t forget is to Leave a packet of sweets and few crackers for their children and them. I do that, but still I do not donate money cause, I prefer to see them smiling the genuine smile than the SAD one. The genuine smile with which they thank the unknown to have shared the Festivities with them.

Yes it gives me immense pleasure to see that smile. In case you do not agree to me, well try it once. Try putting just 1% of the amount of crackers you burst in this cause and let me know whether you liked that smile more or is it when you burst the crackers?

I guess this 1% is not much to ask for and hence we all can put that much effort to select one such house and then try to get the feel of the smile.

But before signing off I would Request You NOT TO DONATE IN CASH to the street children as they DO NOT get to spend that for themselves. PLEASE NO CASH DONATIONS, just Lit a Diya / Candle at the Doorstep of a dark house and leave a packet of sweets, that would be making their Diwali better J


Wednesday, November 7, 2007

Relations - Time is the Controller

Its not in my control

Nor is in your

Any relation that thrives

Just depends on time

The feelings grow or lessen

The recognition rises or falls

The likeliness changes grades

And the fondness shows shades

All the things in a relation

Mature or go through Dilution

But calling things Beyond Time

Is not worth a single Dime

Its only the feeling of true love that stands through the Shades of time, and its only the true love that stands the tests of time.



Friday, November 2, 2007

For My Sweetheart (To Be)

Here I am writing few words that I think I would be prefer to recite to my sweetheart (to be J) They are not related to anyone whom I know in person J

Today I thought to express

My Feeling that I often suppress

But think being a novice

My emotions lacked that spice

I never knew how to bow

For my Love for thee to Show

So when I came over on thy side

Hardly I knew the rules to abide

In the process thee got hurt

And I hit the rough & dirt

Hence I sat to write

To make thy smile a little bright

Please read this full

Before thee think it’s void and null

I feel for thee is for sure

My Love is tender and Pure

I hope the words do convey

Without getting thee to dismay

I Love thee, I want thee to know

For thy Love I now Bow


How does the Heart get Hurt? Any opinion?

Often thinking about the vulnerability of the heart, I ponder over the point that what makes it pain, why is it that we feel the pain in the heart over any issue that displeases us? I mean why we say that any emotion / feeling / sentiment is heart born then mind?

I often tried to dwell on the point that whether the pain has any psychological or scientific angle? But then ruled out the psychological angle as the human psychology is often related to the state of mind rather than the state of heart. I guess the strain on heart an the state of pain in heart can be ruled to the point that when we are emotionally stressed, the over all effect on the body is such that the heart has to work its extra bit to supply the energy (blood) to the core tissues (cell in human anatomy) of the body and in the process it just get overworked as the cells in the state of tension contract and the result is higher rate of blood transmission from the heart to get the body back in shape.

I guess that might be the reason behind relating the emotions / feelings / sentiments to the heart and that may be the cause of hurt heart (burnt out due to over work, the way I would term it).

Still, am not sure its just my thought, my feeling or the way I perceive it. The Bio - Scientists and heart Specialists would be the Better people / professionals to comment on the same.

The thoughts prevail in my mind as often I feel fatigued due to emotional strains but still my Medical reports are as clean as a blank piece of paper ;) J

Any Doc there to read this and let us know if the theory / opinion is a lil correct or baseless J


Saturday, October 27, 2007

Diary of a Hurt Heart

Dear Diary

As I was talking to her last night and through the morning time, I was a lot hurt. I can’t say how much was I hurt and all started when I was not able to meet her last night due to our miscommunication. Well the fault was totally mine as I was just pulling her leg and we had to end the call abruptly due to some work related issue at her end. Later when we again spoke and this time she disconnected due to some issue at her end again telling me that I was not to sleep as she would call me in some time. Well I was awake through the night and I didn’t sleep for she would be calling me back, but the call didn’t come in till late in the morning.

We spoke again and I was a li’l harsh and rude, may be because I was hurt. Last night also I had been a li’l rude to hurt her and be the cause of her shedding tears, and this morning also the same thing. Well I hurt her deeply that she wept. I didn’t have any intentions but still somehow it flew. May be I am in a real grim state of mind and that I am not that good / avid at expressing myself in spoken words. May be I take time to speak out and I take time to say things. But that is something that I need to work on, I don’t know why it has been always like that? Why am not able to express myself in words and the way I want to? Why does my voice go dry and why do people get a feeling that I am harsh, when I don’t want to hurt them.

Just when I was thinking on things, I recollected telling her to listen to her patiently and her reply left me aghast. She thinks I don’t love her and she thinks I want her to go. But I don’t want her to go, I want her to stay, but don’t know how do I express it to her. I love her so much but can’t express my love for her, is it because of my bad experiences in the past? Or is it something inherently lacking in me?

Or is it the fear of losing once again to the hands of Destiny? I am startled and I am indecisive to identify the way forward and the path forward.

But I love her is the truth, and I LOVE her to the CORE of my HEART…..But how do I convey that to her?

Dear Diary, I am telling you call that so that someday if she meets you and comes on this page, she would come to know how much I LOVE HER and how much I miss her.

I guess patience is something that I need to develop and patience is something that I need to work on till she reads this.


Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Indian Stock Market - High Action Day

I had been closely following the high action drama that was going on the Indian Stock market. Surely a windfall of the USD after Fed cut down interest rate by .5 points. The entire gamut of funds flew down from the US economy to the developing and the third world front. Typically the Indian Stock market rode the bullish wave to touch 19000 figure, that was something tremendous. The market is further inclined to go up to touch the 20000 figure in next week or so. But is that what we are expecting of the industry experts are looking towards.

If I run through the minds of the industry experts expressing their thoughts on various channels, I fear a High action drama and a series of high action days where the FIIs might go ahead on a Profit brooking spree triggering the collapse of Indian Stock market back to the range of 15000 to 16000. It is quite a surprising rise and equally would be the downfall.

When I see today most of the stocks are priced quite high as compared to the real performance of the companies and that means that has to come down. This high swing in the stock market reminds me of the Harshad Mehta effect.

As I write this post, I hear that the other Asian Markets are not performing as good, so do I hear the bells ringing??

Mayank Trivedi

Saturday, September 29, 2007

Comparing Mumbai to Delhi - How Illogical, An Insult to Mumbai

Hi Friends,

Its not so often that I write these mails, but in a recent survey by E&Y, they say Delhi is better than Mumbai. Though the parameters as used by them, no two ways wold favour Delhi, but why don’t they also look at the amount that is spent on Infrastructure Development for Delhi as it is the National Capital. On the Contrary when it comes to Mumbai, even though it outsmarts Delhi by a huge margin in terms of revenues, what it gets is Terms and Conditions Levied for meeting one or other requirements, prior to sanction of funds for development.

Just look at the Cleaning and Expansion project for Mithi, Dahisar and another River (the one that starts from Aaray Colony and flows through Goregaon), the funds requested were INR 2000 Crores and the amount sanctioned was 50% of that. Metro development in Mumbai had been discussed from as long as 1999-2000, but the only corridor that was sanctioned for the Project (Charkop – Marve – Varsova - Andheri East – Ghatkopar) was off late in 2005 or 2006.

The first Metro project as per the knowledge that I had gained from the government circle was Borivali – Thane (intersecting through the Sanjay Gandhi National Park), but that was shelved as environmentalists (environmental ministry) raised concerns.

So I guess there are many such sharp nails that are the pain areas for those fighting for the Development of Mumbai Infrastructure to meet the growing demands.

The plight of Mumbai is not the dearth of space, but the availability of funds for development.

But whatever be the case, Mumbai still stands proud with its resilience, zest for life, cultural richness, active nightlife, and you have the best that you could have ever asked for.

I would request you to visit - http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/debate/2411691.cms and cast your opinion for Mumbai being the better city



Wednesday, August 15, 2007

भारतीय स्वतंत्रता दीवस की शुभकामनाएं

यूं तो हम सब Friendship Day, वैलेंटाइन Day और ना जाने कौन कौन से Days पर एक दूसरे को मेसेज भेजते हैंऔर wish करते हैं, और जब बारी आती है अपने ही देश की आजादी का जश्न मनाने और एक दूसरे को बधाईयाँ देनेकी, तो हम भूल जाते हैंहमें लगता है की ऐसा कर कर हम अच्छे नहीं लगेंगे

आज भारत की आजादी की ६०वी साल्गीरह पर मैं आप सबको हार्दिक शुभकामनाएं देते हुए ये प्रार्थना कर्ता हूँकी आप आज नीह्संकोच अपने भार्तीयात्व का प्रदर्शन कर सारे भारतीयों को शुभकामनाएं भेंजे

आप सभी को मेरी तरफ से स्वतंत्रता की शुबकामनाएं

Monday, August 6, 2007

Memo from Soul - To Mind and Heart

All the Body Parts
Human Body

Sub:- Conflict of Heart and Mind

Dear All,

It is really sad to have witnessed the case brought to us by Heart and well am delighted that Mind has not taken it personally. It was a very good and apt reply by the Mind for the Heart and that highlighted the importance of every body part. See for a body to function, all the body parts need to coordinate properly and Mind for that matter acts as the coordinator.

Also, all the Body parts including mind need the energy to function and this is supplied to them by Heart. But Heart here should not forget that the Blood that it pumps is not produced by it and the production of blood solely depends on the food intake by body. This food intake also depends on the Hunger which in itself is a sense and is linked directly to the functioning of Mind.

Whatever perhaps goes, lets understand that without either of them the Human body is total waste.

Take this particular instance that as a Soul, I do not have any form and there is no physical presence I have, my entire form is given to me by the Human Body that is each part of it. Now if I have a conflict with the Body, and Body has a conflict with me, then what do you think, would it be possible for me to live in the Body?

The Human body is my dress, the most beautiful dress that has ever been created.

And, well one thing whether it is Mind or Heart, without me neither of them can work. If I leave the Body, both of them would be dysfunctional. No this is not my ego, but the universal truth. As the Body gives me a form, I give life to the Body. All the feelings of Heart and Logic of Mind is because of me, my experiences and the knowledge base I carry with me.

I am sorry that there had been too much of I in the whole case, but then, lets accept what is truth.

I don't want to continue this more and would like to conclude requesting all of you to live and work in Harmony and peace. Because without Coordination between us, we can't move ahead and there will always be clashes.

Deepest regards


Originally written on Oct 24, 2006


Reply from Mind

The Body
Human race

Sub:- My Reply to allegations by heart

Dear Body,

All of us are equal when it comes to make an entire body. None of us is less than other and there is no fact that there can be somem comparison declaring anyone of us inferior or superior than other. Like Heart is very vital when it comes to the work of Blood purification and repumping, and developing the feeling. But as highlighted it also depends on the nerves and the Eyes to do the respective jobs.

If we look at the fact than the Heart actually generates the feelings depending on the five senses that hman body has and these senses of - touch, smell, speach, sight and hearing are directly or indirectly controlled by me.

However Heart does not understand the logic and immediately develops the feelings whereas its entirely upto me to understand, evaluated and then develop the logic for the entire body to understand and react. We can not depend on the spontinity of the Heart and react as that can at times be harmful to our existance.

I would hence request you to take up the case and make heart understand the facts. there is no rivalry and clash between me and Heart as I myself am dependent on heart to work. As so if heart stops providing me the blood that my cells require to function, I would be dead.

Now being the two important organs for the sustenance of life in the Human Body, I would request heart to just leave aside the conflict and work in harmony. As without anyone of us, the entire body would be considered as dead.



originally written on October 24 2006

Sunday, August 5, 2007

Letter from Heart - Highlighting its Plight

The Body
Human Race

Sub:- My Plight

Dear Body,

This is your heart writing to you and with the subject matter i would like to highlight that I have grown sad and volatile with time. I was very happy when you were born nand when you were small. But as you grew, load on nme increased. My main work always had been to receive, purify and pump blood to all the parts of the body. But as you grew, the eys started resting on various sights to oodle, specially girls.

With that I had to start developing feelings for them. The mind kept on rejecting the feelings and I kept on generating them. There had been no criteria, the eyes captured the gilrs it liked, I developed the feelings and the mind just rejected.

Let me highlight the fact that over time I have become stressed and sad over the way mind had been ruling me with its logic. I don't understand logic, for me feelings are more important and I develop them whenever eyes tell me something pleasant is being sighted.

I know this is totally illogical of me cause the world runs on logic, but when we are part of living beings and me as heart, I participate in all the emotional parts of the human being be it pain, pleasure sadness, sorrow, happiness or anything, I know the mind also makes part to it, but why does it pump in its logic at every instance???

If this would cocntinue furhter, it will be tough for me to continune in the capacity I am and would have to resign resulting in the overall body suffering. I do not want the body to suffer for one stupidity of Mind.

I hope this will be taken care off and in future clashes between me and mind will be avoided.



Originally written on Oct 24, 2006 3:49 am

Two ways to deal with the difficulty

There are two ways of meeting difficulties:
You alter the Difficulties
or You Alter Yourself
To Meet Them
---------------------------------Phyllis Bottome--

I happen to read the line today in one of the forwards received by one of my colleague. And wow, I was like, I always believed in this. I was like pleading her to forward on the text to me as I didn't want the entire forward cloggin my mail box...

She was like how do I forward the text as this is part of an image....and blah blah blah...You see another difficulty there in getting something well said piece on Difficulty

So I just went around and got a piece of paper to write the stuff. (Altered myself )


Well jokes apart, (though that was a real incident to get the start of this post), When looking at life, we all know and accept the fact that Difficulties are part and parcel of life. Not all of us are born with all the luck to have smooth sailing through the life....And I haven't come across a single person who had a smooth sailing through the life without the turbulence of Difficulties.

Now under the scenario given where the Difficulties are integral part of our life, if we follow the quote above, then we can either alter the difficulty or we can alter ourselves....But Can we really ater the difficulty??? I doubt...

We can certainly Alter ourselves to meet the difficulty, Mind it MEET and not run away from it.

Yes the correct approach to meet the difficulty is what we need to select, the right strategy to beat the difficulty.

But should we wait for a situation where difficulty strikes??? Why not to just be a Proactive person to judge the situation, analyze and try to know the quantum and sort of difficulty, (one can actually know this if has evaluated the series of circumstances and events). this is nothing but Altering oneself to act proactively.

Yes certainly there is the Reactive Approach also, where one act after the difficulty has struck, and in this case the person has to be more of spontaneous rather than a laid back sort.

I would prefer to choose the right sort of approach depending on the situations I face they do matter.

Saturday, July 21, 2007

गुजारीश वफ़ा-ए-सनम से

गुजारिश आज आपसे है ऐ सनम
दे सको तो देना खुशी न देना गम
कि गम का समंदर होता बहुत गहरा है
माझी तो छोडिये साहिल तक डूब जाता है

कि गम-ऐ-उल्फत में हम ना जी सकेंगे
तेरी तनहाई में जाम भी ना पी सकेंगे
कि पैमाना भी जब उठाते हैं
कमबख्त उसमें भी तेरा अक्स नज़र आता है

सोचते हैं कि धुंए में गम को छोड़ देंगे
लेकिन डर है कहीं धुएँ में तेरी तस्वीर ना नज़र आए
डर की दुनिया में हम कब तक जीते जाएंगे
क्या कभी तेरी बेवफाई से निजात पा सकेंगे

अब गर चाहत ये है ऐ सनम
कि ना रुसवा हो हमारी मोहब्बत
और ना कहे ये दुनिया हमें दीवाना
तो दे मुझे अपनी मोहब्बत कि खुशी

गुजारिश यही है तुझसे ऐ सनम
दे सके तो देना खुशी ना देना गम
कि गम के साए में बेजार होगी ज़िन्दगी
बेआबरू होंगे हम और बेवफा कहलोगी तुम

What You Feel is What it Hurts

Hurts, from where does the hurt origin??does it origin from the acts of others?? or do they just originate out of our own perceptions and our own belief and our own convictions????

What I feel is the hurt originates from our own feelings as our feelings originates from our perceptions based on our belief...and so on and so forth

Continuing from my previous blog where I had talked about the correlations, well et see the correlations that run thru our own mind and the way we perceive things the way we want to... Just go back and think of a situation in which you hear some girls/guys laughing when u are crossing them, and for a flash of of a second the thought in ur mind prevails and u ask a question to yourself - "Were they Laughing at me?" Now there could be a MAY BE and a MAY BE NOT, but then you are hurt for that 50% chance of the MAY BE....

So if we can bury such unnecessary hassels in life and proceed, half of the pain in life would be gone turning itself into pleasure...


Originally written on 1st of May 2006....

Relation and Correlation

Looking around onself what I find is there exist relations and on the top of many more Coorelations....For any one instance if there is one relation between me and the person X, then the correlations for various situations as perceived by various people would be a phenominally hight...

Lets take a simple example of the relation between person x and person y....and imagine that there are 10 scenarios observerd by 10 people. now lets see how many Correlations exist -

10 * 10 from Xs perspective
10 * 10 from Ys perspective
100 * 100 overall

Now looking at this the scene gets compliated further ahead. Its very complex a situation when we start calculating because everytime there is a analysis of the situation and the relation, there is a different perspective coming out of it...I dunno but people really like to do POST MORTOM of various incidents and various situations...and many a times they even make things worse between X and Y by unnecessary and unrelevant comments and analytical skill show.

I dunno when will this end...may be when X and Y would leave world cause they would not be bothered by these analysis and Post Mortom by the people around....

People need to Grow UP

This was originally written on 30th April 2006......in the original Form

Friday, July 20, 2007


Take a nice Trip around the Country in just 8 scenario. I really loved this Fun / Pun intended mail I recd.

Scenario 1
Two guys are fighting and a third guy comes along, then a fourth and.
They start arguing about who's right.
You are in KOLKATA

Scenario 2
Two guys are fighting and a third guy comes along & tries to make
peace.Thefirst two get together & beat him up.
That's DELHI

Scenario 3
Two guys are fighting. Both of them take time out and call their Friends on
mobile. Now 50 guys are fighting.
You are in AMRITSAR

Scenario 4
Two guys are fighting and a third guy comes along,sees them and walks on.

Scenario 5
Two guys are fighting. Third guy comes along with a carton of beer. All sit
together drinking beer and abusing each other and all go home being friends.
You are in GOA

Scenario 6
Two guys are fighting and a third guy comes he writes a software Program to
stop the fight. But the fight doesn't stop b'cos of a bug in the program.

Scenario 7
Two guys are fighting. A crowd gathers to watch. A guy comes along and
quietly says that "AMMA" doesn't like all this nonsense. Peace comes in.

Scenario 8
Two guys are fighting. A crowd gathers to watch. A guy comes along and
quietly opens a tea-stall & a thattukada (dhaba)...

Monday, July 16, 2007

Partition of India - Religious or Political????

Just read a post on Indian Friend Finder Site - QUICK HISTORY OF INDIA by Leather and there she has written that the partition of India at the time of independence was due to the enmity between the Hindu and the Muslims, but is that true? Not as per my knowledge and opinion.

Before the Britishers came to the then geographical landscape, there was no enmity between the two sects and there was not much differences. Though due to the hardliners and the rulers hindu community did face some problems but still the point was not that grave that the partition would have been required.

But the Partition of India is the result of the "Divide and Rule" policy adopted by the Britishers after the 1857 mutiny, when they found that the masses of India accepted the then Mughal Emperor Bahadur Shah 'Jafar' as the Emperor of India and with this they went in for claiming the Independence. For this sole reason, after the failure of that attempt, Bahadur Shah 'Jafar' was shifted to a prison outside the country where he spent last days of his life.

Most of the Inter religion clashes between the hindu and muslim community started only in late 1800 century or the early 1900s. The Divide and Rule Policy of Britishers only delayed the independence of India. If only INC under Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi would have supported the INA headed by Subhash Chandra Bose, India might have probably attained Independence well in 1942. But the same didn't happen.

Moreover the requirement of Partition was further strengthened by the ego clash between Mohd. Ali Jinnah and Jawaharlal Nehru, where Jawaharlal Nehru was adamant on heading the Govt. at the time of Independence, as he was already at that level in INC. On the contrary Mohd. Ali Jinnah was opposing his candidature and had Agreed that the same could be bestowed with Sardar Vallabh Bhai Patel. But Nehru never agreed and there Jinnah Demanded for creation of Pakistan.

These are the hidden truths of Indian History that uncover only when we dwell in the history, and to get the truth out.

(Please try to identify the Creation of Muslim League by Jinnah to get to the roots of differences between Jinnah and Nehru.)

Tuesday, July 3, 2007

Adieu Mumbai - By a Mumbaiker

Sunday July 1, 2007 went as another milestone date for me, the day my another instinct at Mumbai ended. I Left Mumbai for yet another journey, that I know would conclude at Mumbai only.

Mumbai the way it is for many more has the same place in my life, I started my career in Pune, but then the growth path lead me to Mumbai. Mumbai the City of Dreams, the City that Never Sleeps. The City that makes Millionaires out of Dirts and the City that converts Millions in Dirts.

The day would be yet another mark in my life to yet once again say adieu to Mumbai, and unlike couple of time earlier, when I had ditched saying adieu to Mumbai, this time I have to for sure as the growth path is telling me to do so.

Well I am sayed Adieu to Mumbai only for starting the journey that would once again end at Mumbai only :) Yes Mumbai holds that space in my heart that No Other city does...except for my hometown.

Signing Out with Love to all the Mumbaiites here #:D# to my sweet Mumbaiker friends.....Ane me parat Yenaar Mumbai....aamchi Mumbai ane me Mumbaiker :)


Sunday, July 1, 2007

In April this year when I was trying to create my blog area on blogger, I identified that this URL that I was attempting to get is already booked and moreover I was shocked to see that the intro aas pasted is nothing but as is copy paste of my intro on another site - http://indianfriendfinder.com/blog/soulitude

Also, this guy copied poems from that site and pasted it as his content, specifically the two poems that he copied and pasted in February 2007 were written by me in Nov-dec 2006.

the overall copy paste that he has done is of three posts from my ORIGINAL CONTENT and may be his other posts also may be copied from somewhere.

Please I request you to take corrective actions on this side




तुझे चाहने की सज़ा पाता हूँ
तेरे ही गम में अपना लहू जलाता हूँ
ना चाहते हुए भी अक्सर तेरे अक्स में
मैं अपनी रौशनी ढूंढें जाता हूँ
रोशनाई कहीँ कम ना पडे
ये सोच के अपने लहू से
मैं ये नज़्म लीखे जाता हूँ
गुजारीश करता हूँ आपसे आज
ना ही करो रुसवा यूं मेरी चाहत को
ना झुकाओ पलकें यूं
भर नफ़रत नीगाहों में
और यही इल्तजा है आज ए सनम
की मरहम बन इस नासूर-ए-दिल का
ले आगोश में लावारीस मेरी इस लाश को
सुकून मीलेगा मेरी रूह को तेरे साथ से
की जीते जी तेरा साथ ना मिल तो क्या
मर कर तेरा साया जो नसीब हुआ

Friday, June 22, 2007

Will Wait be Ever Over?

Does Wait ever get over? The thoughts as they hit me at this hour today the 22nd June 2007 at the Hyderabad airport waiting for my flight and listening to Music touching my soul – Read On –


When I was a kid, I waited

Waited for parents to permit

Waited for teachers to permit

Waited all the time

I waited along

For myself to grow up

When I stepped in college

I waited

Waited for my exams

Waited for the semester to be over

I waited all along

For myself to be ready for job

When I stepped in the Job

I waited, waited yet again

Waited for my projects

Waited for my appraisals

I always waited

For me to reach home

Once I got married

I still waited, waited long

Waited for time to rest

Waited for my kids

And I waited

Waited for Kids to grow up

Now at the fag end of life

I sit with my love my wife

Holding her hand in my hand

Sitting on the Sea shore sand

Just waiting once again

Waiting for the Final Call


Thursday, June 14, 2007

Teacher, leave us kids alone!

Happened to read the article “Teacher, leave us kids alone!” (http://lifestyle.indiatimes.com/articleshow/msid-2116866,curpg-1.cms) on India Times today and well would certainly disagree with the way colleges are trying to act. The question as you put forward is –

Do you think it would be correct to impose a restriction upon what one wears on the pretext of moral parenting and discipline?

My answer for the question is pretty simple and straight forward – it would be totally illogical to put restriction on what one wears on the pretext of moral parenting and discipline. The so called members of such moral policing brigade should well note that denims aka jeans is one of the most comfortable wear. I guess this would be the most common answer across the student fraternity.

I find it really funny for the moral brigade that they forget that the trendy cloths are not the only thing that invites sexual attraction then. The filth lies in the human mind. If they think that wearing Shalwar kameez or let say saree wouldn’t raise sexual temperatures in the minds of those who have bent towards sex, then they are entirely wrong. For that matter, why do they forget that the Saree is considered to be one of the Sexiest Dress / attire.

If wearing the traditional dresses means that the sexuality of a girl wouldn’t ooz from them, then well they are totally wrong as if that would have been the case, then there wouldn’t be many rape cases reported in the rural areas. They should go back to the root of rape cases as reported and as they happen and they might get surprised.

For Sexuality, cloths wore do have the effect, but more is the effect from the way a girl’s body language would be. It’s the way the girl handles the dress and the way she carries herself in the dress.

Just for example, Sushmita Sen looked her best in the Movie “Mein Hoon Na” where she wore Saree for the most part of the movie.

I am totally surprised to note that the colleges are trying to teach students some dressing sense when most of the college lecturers and professors walk into the colleges wearing Sleepers or Sandals. Why not make it Compulsory for such lecturers /professors to wear formal cloths with Shoes, Ties and Blazers an integral part of their attire? Will that be acceptable to these professors? I guess NO and they would start fuming. These professors / lecturers at times wear such silly combinations that one can’t do anything but laugh.

I would conclude with last comment on the matter that – “Those who need to teach should teach and if they want to focus on anything other than teaching then they should focus on Personality development of their students rather than restricting them from doing one thing or other. Those who come to study, they study irrespective of what co-students are wearing. If students would be more worried about their dress code, then I guess they would be spending more time in identifying what to wear than what to study”.